Do You Really Want To Be A Perfectionist
Were you the one with the A average in school and today you’re the one at your job working late at home or staying late to gain approval from your boss plus congratulations at the team meetings? Do you find that if you’ve children you also carry the same standards for them?
Endeavoring to be perfect needs many energy and builds up a lot of stress. Perfectionists try to not look out over any details. They find it difficult to ask others to look of some of the jobs that want to get finished. The joys of a realized project are temporary for perfectionists as they start up the next spot that they feel they’ve to master. Ironically, when one person makes a trial to even change their own perfectionistic tendencies they find they must have to do that perfectly as well!
Ask yourself questions below and try to sit with the responds to them:
- Is my sense of worth tied up with my performance at school, work and as a parent? If so, where did this come from? Do you see a pattern throughout your personal history?
- Do you live for congratulations and recognition from others for your sense of who you are? What specifies your self-worth?
- Do someone tell you that you’re a workaholic or you are too hard on yourself?
Keep in mind that you always are able to still have high standards for yourself without having to be “number one”. Letting go of the force for being perfect doesn’t mean you now have low or no standards.
The journey or process is even as important as the result or outcome. Making mistakes is how we grow and learn. You’ll be a much more flexible person going for imperfectnesses in yourself and in others. As a matter of fact, people may call their freckles an imperfectness but that can be what someone finds cute about them. Does anyone really want to be around a “perfect” person? Would you want to be around one person who never misses the net in basketball or who does anything without a fault?
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